My big kid? She’s fairly well behaved.
For a three year old.
We saw some threenager behaviour right around her birthday, but for the most part, she’s been pretty chill. Yes, we have temper tantrums when it comes time to leave some place fun, and yes, she is crazy grumpy when you wake her up in the morning and she doesn’t want wear what she chose the night before (or threw a fit the night before and so we chose for her).
I can’t tell you what we did to raise a pretty decent kid. We must have done something right at some point since she’s not a little shit. That being said, sometimes I know we’re not making the right decision, but I’m still sticking with it.
The other day, we came in from being outside and C asked for hot cocoa. Sure, easy enough to talk me into after coming in from the cold. And hot cocoa without marshmellows is just a travesty. But when she saw the cookies in the pantry, there began the not-so-subtle hintings of a three year old.
So I said she could have a cookie if she made sure that all of her winter clothing was put away.
And then later I added if she kept putting her toys away, she could bring something from the playroom up into the living room.
I’m sure there are a hundred and one reasons that it’s a bad parenting technique. But I’m also sure there are a hundred and one parents out there who do the same thing. Because, really, how is a bribe that much more different a chore chart?