Throwing Stones, or Modelling Good Behaviour

I asked C to put away some toys tonight that had made their way into the kitchen. She went to complain that there were too many toys to carry when she remembered a similar discussion the previous morning and the solution of using a basket to carry things. She ran to grab the basket, load the toys and disappeared into the living room. I smiled and mentally patted myself on the back for raising such a good kid… only to discover the basket was dropped two steps into the living room and not actually put away.

Of course, this discovery came only after she went to bed, so there was no reminder to finish a job once started. Instead, I sighed, picked it up from the basket of laundry it was placed on top of and put it down on the floor one step closer to its destination.

Gee, I wonder where she gets this from?

We are pretty terrible at finishing what we start. A 5 minute job in the basement ended up taking us all afternoon between getting distracted before we could finish one job, or being unable to move forward with the next step because we were missing key pieces that we know we put somewhere the last time we got halfway through this job.

Maybe it’s time to put a conscious effort into the follow through, both with finishing jobs I start, and making sure that C finishes jobs as well. And maybe most importantly, letting C know that it’s something I have to work on too and that it’s something we need to work on together. You know, really living that don’t throw stones in glass houses thing. Cuz really, that would suck to clean up.

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4 thoughts on “Throwing Stones, or Modelling Good Behaviour

  1. This made me laugh because I can totally relate. I’m TERRIBLE at finishing what I start. I’m so awesome with starting projects and coming up with great ideas… and then crap at the follow-through. Reading this made me think about the expectations I have for my kids and whether I’m being hypocritical sometimes. I could definitely be a better model than I am currently.

  2. it’s so so so hard to follow through ALL the time! ugh.

  3. YES. I relate to this so much. I am especially bad when it comes to laundry, I’ll do the minimum to get “just enough” done. You are right though, they see what we do, so we need to show them the right way to do things I guess!

  4. I am SO so guilty of doing this. Yesterday I sat down to take my online course (which I’m two weeks behind in GAH!) and as I did this, I realized I was picking up things around the apartment and checking my phone for texts and clicking on my email. It’s like I can’t physically be present for just ONE thing! It’s horrible. Anyway, thanks for the reminder that we all need to be a bit more mindful of accomplishing one task before moving on to the next ❤

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